All they experience is the continuous suffering and they want the suffering to end.

So as an easy way to “numb out” from what might seem like unending suffering, they jump into another relationship so they can continue feeding their sense of well-being.

When we believe something that is out of alignment with reality, we suffer…

To wrap up this point: Most people can’t recognize when they believe something impossible, nor can they see the false belief as the source for all of the suffering…

Unfortunately, it’s a false sense of well-being and is entirely dependent on the actions of others (thus the inevitable crippling neediness).

Sometimes in a relationship, a guy will really, really love a girl and may start to compromise these core values.In the case where you dumped the guy, one common reason is that the guy doesn’t want to be alone, he doesn’t want to deal with his grief over the breakup and he doesn’t want to “deal with himself.” When he jumps into another relationship, he can get a dose of external female validation and derive a feeling of false sense of self-esteem and self-worth from her positive attention.It has its cost though and eventually devolves into a crippling neediness.Maybe he changes his lifestyle, stops hanging out with certain friends, or changes his habits.It seems innocent enough, but over time the guy begins to starve for whatever it was he got from the things he gave up.